twerking

the whole tweaking, young woman sexuality thing has me gnawing my elbows! Reading whats been written it seems the subtext is a young woman is allowed no sexual vocabulary other than 'yes' and that can be implied rather than spoken.

what this means is young men also have no sexual vocab other than the one that exists in the company of other young men. Which means we have lost the concept of sexual flirting.

Its become too dangerous. If women even suggest they are sexually active or interested they immediately risk becoming victim to a form of male sexuality that cannot discern even the tiniest hint of nuance.

reality is a very different possibility. How often do we flirt sexually with  a partner? Accidentally brush or touch inappropriately, breathe on an ear we know to be sensitive or suggest in the quietest tone the possibility of licentiousness.

 sexual vocabulary requires a dialogue and what is suggested is not an inevitability; its a conversation.

I think to my skirt and my reading of the function of skirt. They were ritual garments that acknowledged the place of such a sexual vocabulary in a group's sociality. This place was firmly bound and known. i think it is that we have lost.

Would I twerk? In a heart beat. Would I twerk in public wearing a ritual skirt? In a heartbeat. But I am assuming a structure that allows such a physical conversation and accepts that nothing is finalised until the 'yes' has been given.

I watch a friend of mine put on and wear my unfinished skirt. it was a delight to see him play with the strands and experiment with moving his body through the form of the skirt. Would he have twerked? I'm thinking he would have in a heart beat!